As our kids return to school it is important to develop healthy routines. Developing a Family Time routine is just as important as adequate sleep and a balanced diet.
What is Family Time?
Interactive time set aside with both child and parent/caregiver in which both/all are engaged fully and healthily in an activity together.
What are the benefits to of Family Time?
-stronger family connection
-improved self esteem
-promotes open communication between child and parent/caregiver
-parents/caregiver can observe and learn about child’s strengths and weaknesses in order to better guide them
-studies show healthy interaction between loved ones decreases symptoms of depression
What can my family do for Family Time?
-family game night
-preparing a meal together
-listening to music together
-get active together (walks, pool time, exercise)
-people watch together
-start a new hobby together
Make Family Time a “Must Do” on your to do list!
Jennifer Bryant, LPC
As kids try and get adjusted to the new school year, many children will experience difficulties making and maintaining new friendships. Making friendships is critical to helping kids improve their communication and sharing skills. Some children who are impulsive and hyperactive sometimes engage in behaviors that sabotage their ability to make new friends. Also, for children and adolescents who are shy and introverted, it can be very overwhelming to initiate conversations with peers.
From a child’s perspective, making friends is just as important as performing well academically. If you notice that your child is struggling socially and/or being bullied, here are some steps you can take to help. Remember, as a parent it is not practical for you to make friendships on behalf of your child. It is possible to help your child make friendships without enabling them. Giving your child opportunities to grow socially can help them feel more self-motivated to make friends. You can help them build the skills needed to make healthy friendships. Try to:
While making friendships can be an anxiety-provoking situation, with the right skills your child can be on their way to making healthy friendships. Also, remember that a crucial component to healthy friendships is trust. You can always ask your child what qualities they like about their friends, as well as any necessary adjustments they believe they need to make in their friendship circle.
Chelsea Moodie, M.S., APC, NCC
Fresh Start has just celebrated its 4th year as an independent private practice! We’re honored to have served so many in the community and are now starting to see many “repeat” clients who are requesting updated evaluations. From my perspective, I’ve seen two types of “repeaters”: Those who accepted the initial results and followed my recommendations OR Those who didn’t. I get it, in some cases, your only intention is to obtain a diagnosis simply as a means to an end. Perhaps your child needed a diagnosis for school accommodations, maybe you needed a diagnosis just so that your medical doctor would prescribe medication, or maybe you or your child needed to “prove” there was no diagnosis to another family member or other professional. In any case, you still received well-thought out recommendations to not just “accommodate” the problem (or diagnosis), but to actually help improve symptoms.
Just recently, I met with parents, who had their child evaluated by me and my team in 2013. They were so excited to see me and tell me all about their now-teenage daughter. They related that they followed “every recommendation” and even provided specific examples. Some recommendations they were still adhering to til this day!! Their daughter had been taken off some medication, significantly improved her grades at school, and required an updated evaluation for her IEP. These parents also wanted an updated report themselves, just so they could see the prior diagnoses removed. I too, was ecstatic to see the results!! This was a very different girl than I evaluated in 2013. Thankfully, we have numerous stories like these.
On the other hand, I’ve met some parents who’ve come back quite distraught because their child is struggling just the same or even worse. When I ask what all has been done in the last two or three years, some parents say they participated in a couple of counseling sessions or provided the report to the school, often with no other attempts at intervention. For many of these parents, there very well might be little time in the schedule or limited funds in the budget to adhere to some of my recommendations, but two things are for sure: 1) I provide a multitude of options with schedule and budget in mind, and 2) I encourage parents to meet with me periodically to discuss other treatment interventions in the event the ones I offer are not feasible.
Being a psychologist is definitely my calling in life. I appreciate every client that walks through the doors of Fresh Start and vow to give my best effort to help with the platform I’ve been given. It is now up to you to take these well thought-out and heart-felt recommendations and apply them in your or your child’s life. It could make all the difference down the road. Trust me!
What do you look for in a school? As I parent, and an Educational Consultant, I think about this as much as you do. When my kids were in school, I kept a notebook of things my children liked and did not like about their school experience. I watched their anxiety level, and their stress levels, and I wrote it all done. That’s how I discovered my daughter had severe test anxiety. In understanding this I was able to work with her teachers and ease that anxiety during assessments. For my son, it was socialization, learning proper responses and being able to read facial queues and body language.
From all of that, I go back to my question of what do you look for in a school? For me it was the following:
● Dedication of Staff – I will take a dedicated staff member over a certified teacher with a Master’s Degree any day; and in the past I have been lucky enough to have both. A dedicated staff member will go above and beyond to find a method of teaching that works for your child. A dedicated staff member will answer your 101 emails and put you at ease. A dedicated staff member has the same goals as you do. My biggest sense of pride when I owned and ran Hayden’s Way is that we had a dedicated staff. Those women added, searched, and gave more than any other teachers I knew. They were creative, intuitive, knowledgeable, and above all dedicated. They were dedicated to the school, the students, and the parents.
● Curriculum – I want a mixture of curriculum that guides the students through their learning, and I want a variety of choices, because not every curriculum works for every child. A school needs to be able to give your child options, and I don’t care if it’s written by the Mennonites, who by the way have the best grammar book out there, or the Director of the DOE herself. I just want it clear, concise and thorough, and I want it to work for my child.
● Socialization – Let’s be honest – we all want our kids to have friends, go to parties, and have a social life. The one thing we had at Hayden’s Way was a code of conduct. This code of conduct gave ownership to the students and created empathy and responsibility. We helped our students understand that we are all different, and to respect those differences in one another. Socialization is another reason that field trips are so important. Field trips offer an educational and fun social outing for students. It creates opportunities to impart to them proper social skills. I know as parents we all try and teach this social understanding to our children, but sometimes we can start to sound like the teacher in a Charlie Brown cartoon. It’s good to have outside reinforcements to explain how their actions affect others, and to teach them how to approach a new friend. So look for a school that has a good set of ethics code and will work with you and your child to heighten their social ability.
Get in the habit of journaling what did and did not work for your child this year. Take notes on their anxiety and stresses, and work with your teachers and administrators to setup an environment to succeed for your child.
And if you need help finding the right school for your child contact me. It’s what I do!
Lei Rhyne, M.Ed.
Should my child be re-evaluated? All psychological examinations are not created equal. Inexpensive and brief evaluations are tempting, but can be harmful to your child. Psychological diagnoses such as ADHD, depression, anxiety, PTSD, bipolar, OCD, oppositional defiance disorder, and schizophrenia require the careful, state-of-the art, consideration of a psychological team of professionals. At Fresh Start, we evaluate children every day who have received the wrong diagnosis and, therefore, are prescribed the wrong medication. They are taking chemicals into their bodies that are making their symptoms worse! So, yes, if your child’s medication is not helping them, they should receive a thorough psychological (and often, academic) evaluation.
Working with teenagers is my passion. I frequently evaluate teenagers whose parents did the right thing when their children were little, voicing their parental concerns to pediatricians, teachers, and even psychologists. After a brief examination, they were informed that their child was fine (or lacked motivation, needed more discipline, etc.). Years later, (often with the increased demands of early middle school), the child’s difficulties became overwhelming. When brought in for a comprehensive evaluation, they were given carefully selected psychological assessments based on their unique difficulties. Input from teachers, parents, caregivers, speech therapists, etc. were taken into account, and they were finally given a working diagnosis to be shared with their school for accommodations. Of course, not all children have diagnosable issues, but those children were still given specific, tailored recommendations.
It’s never too late to get a Fresh Start.